We overcome our fears by changing how we react to fear.  We overcome our fears by changing our habits and patterns.  We overcome our fears by realizing being frightened is not a good enough reason to not take the first step.  Even baby steps will create change. 

My friend and colleague Amanda Gore wrote the following about changing your life.   

If things are not the way you want them to be in your life, own that and change yourself.  It takes a bit of work!   

• You can repeatedly tell yourself a different story.
• Make it a goal to become aware of these unconscious patterns taking away your peace and joy.
• Put a note to remind you on your computer or the fridge!
• You can catch yourself every time you fall into an old pattern and stop.
• You can repeatedly focus on the new behaviors you would rather have.
• You can practice the new patterns CONSISTENTLY (for at least 30 days) until the new ones are set as the operating system of your brain, and they reach the top of your 'brain google' search instead of the old patterns. 

A friend of mine who is very uncomfortable with change made the following statement.  "I am not like all you brave people who are not afraid to constantly try new things."  Huh!  My response to him was, "Are you kidding me, there is never a time I am not afraid to try something new.  I just refuse to let fear be the reason to not do something."   I think about every time something new comes my way.  What instantly pops into my head is...I don't know how to do it...and what if I fail! 

The dialogue between me and my stories goes something like this.  So you don't know how...you can learn?  You can google it and you can ask others who already know how for advice.  You don't have to know all the steps to start...just the first one.  If I fail...hmmm...worst case scenario...I fail.  Those who love me will still love me...those who don't, don't matter.  I have failed before and it didn't kill me!  At least I will have tried and have no regrets.  So now you all know I talk to myself often.    

My dad taught me the worst failure in life is having regrets at the end for what you didn't do!  Thanks dad for your insight, I miss you daily.    
   

Here is how to make change your choice:       

• Take some time to think about your life. 
• What brings you joy and happiness? 
• What would you like to see different?
• Identify limiting beliefs.
• Establish new goals and objectives.
• Take baby steps of change...instead of over committing and overwhelming.
•  Practice by repeating your baby steps over and over to create new habits.  (new habits form after somewhere between 20 & 90 times of repetition).
• Don't give up the first time you go back to your old ways.  It's just like being on a diet.  Sometimes we cheat by eating a piece of cake or two...three...I am thinking a big delicious piece of milk chocolate cake with rich, thick and yummy chocolate frosting.  YUMMM!  Oh, where was I?   Sorry lost my focus for a second.  I'm back.  We sometimes fall off our diet we sometime fall back into old habits for a time or two...doesn't mean we throw the towel in and call it quits.  Just identify the breakdown and start again.
• Start each day with good intentions and positve self-talk.  My wise friend Louise Griffith, Passion and Greatness Coach, Speaker, and Author shared the following:  Lose the verbiage I have to and replace it with I get to or I want to.  It will change your mindset and how you feel immediately.  If you would like more information about Louise I inivite you to visit her website at www.oneshininglight.com.      

Choose to overcome your fears that are stopping you and change your habit patterns one baby step at a time.  Change is really only a choice away!   

Change is going to do you good!  ~ Sir Elton John