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 The theme for our book this quarter goes along with the essence of a New Year. Hopefulness, resolutions to better ourselves and forgiveness of past mistakes. Broken Open is a highly acclaimed book which explores the richness of living life open to all of the emotions we experience; even the complicated one's of loss, depression and hurt. Many patients have stated this book literally changed the way they approach life!
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"It's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not."
Unknown
"Failure is the mother of success."
Chinese Proverb
"Failure doesn't mean you are a failure, it just means you haven't succeeded yet."
Robert Schuller
"What would you do if you knew you could not fail?"
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New Year, New Beginnings,
New Goals, New You! |
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"I'll Do It Later"
The Facts of Procrastination
Replacing tasks of high priority (homework) with that of a lower priority task (FaceBook) is the psychological definition of procrastination. Although it is within the norm of human behavior to procrastinate; it becomes problematic when doing so suspends your normal functioning.
It has been stated that 20% of the US population identifies themselves as being chronic procrastinators. Contrary to popular belief, it has been shown that perfectionists procrastinate slightly less than others. Anxiety has also been shown to have a minimal influence on procrastinating behaviors. Lack of confidence (not expecting to succeed) and disliking the task to be completed (the task has little value to you) are stronger indicators of procrastination, but the strongest correlation to procrastinating behaviors is actually impulsiveness and difficulty with self-regulation. Impulsiveness creates procrastination because achieving smaller, more immediate "goals" is more appealing, with no delay to the gratification that will follow, than the value placed upon achieving larger goals with a postponed payoff ...until the larger, long term goals become short term needs and all of a sudden we are motivated by our stress of the deadline to get things done.
So parents trying to motivate your teen to do her homework by commenting on what college she wants to attend will have little to no motivational impact; but possibly pointing out a more immediate outcome ("You can go out tonight") will reduce procrastination time. Setting smaller, more immediately fulfilling goals that lead to the larger 'real' goal being completed is also a good place to start reducing procrastination time.
How long will you put off reading his advice of how to stop procrastinating? |
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How to Use Positive Self Affirmations to help with Enhancing Self-Confidence
We all engage in some level of negative self-talk; the thoughts that go through your mind throughout the day placing judgments upon yourself. Negative self talk can be about your abilities, your looks, your intelligence, your personality, your relationships; or all of these topics. Basically, negative self talk can impact any area of your life and have a profound impact on your self-confidence.
Using positive self affirmation statements can help you train your mind to replace negative self-talk thoughts with more positive, helpful one's. Start out by giving yourself visual reminders of positive affirmation statements: write them on your bathroom mirror (dry erase markers work!), set a reminder in your phone for each day, 'hide' 3x5 cards with positive statements written on them throughout the house to be 'found' during daily tasks...whatever works for you! Commit to your chosen approach for 30 days and see for yourself how quiet negative self-talk can become if you allow yourself to increase the volume on positive, affirming self-talk.
Examples of positive self-affirmation statements:
- It is enough to have done the best I can do
- I am loveable
- I can forgive myself
- I am unique and that is wonderful
- I am learning about myself everyday
To start, find the statements you enjoy saying to yourself and are comfortable hearing. Then allow yourself to move into statements that may take sometime getting comfortable saying and believing, as your negative self-talk has probably told you the opposite for some time. Keep at it! Keep saying the positive affirmations even if they feel difficult and uncomfortable...and see how quickly you can turn them into something you are not only comfortable saying to yourself, but also believe to be true. |
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