Possibilities Newsletter
June 2008
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Hello from Bill O'Hanlon. You are receiving this newsletter because you have signed up for it. If for any reason, you don't want to continue receiving it (it comes out once a month), please use the unsubscribe button below.
I am truly blessed in this life. I have enough to eat, a roof over my head, good friends and love in my life. I have been able to do work that I love and that makes a contribution to others. I have even been able to arrange my life so that I no longer work night and day. I now exercise regularly (I'm finally losing that mid-life spare tire I have had for years) and am taking the month of July off (I'll prepare the email newsletter beforehand). It reminds me of some lines from a Mary Oliver poem ( Sometimes): Instructions for living a life: Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it.This month's research and handout are about gratitude. It's all too easy to get caught up in daily living and forget to count our blessings. I hope this is a gentle reminder to count yours, live astonished and tell about it. Until next month, yours in possibilities, Bill O'Hanlon, Santa Fe, New Mexico ( PossiBill@aol.com)
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Cool Stuff
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Inspirational book of the month: Three Cups of Tea by Greg Mortenson and David Oliver Relin
My friend Helen bought this book for me and urged me to read it. I read it on an airplane and had to hide the tears that kept coming as I read it. I was moved and inspired. This guy is the real deal and making a difference in the world. Check it out by clicking the link below.
Three Cups of Tea at Amazon.com
Quotation of the month: "Remember to always be yourself. Unless you suck." -Joss Whedon
Cool video of the month: The Lines That Divide Us: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G2AJ7Vcxk3w
Get out your hankies again. Prepared to be moved and inspired.
Research of the month: Be Grateful and Increase Your Happiness Levels
People who noted on a weekly basis the things they were grateful for increased their happiness levels 25% over people who noted their complaints or were just asked to note any events that had occurred during the week.
Reference: Emmons, R. A., & McCullough, M. E. (2003). "Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life," Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 84(2), 377-389
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Developing a Habit of Gratitude and Appreciation
Bill O'Hanlon, www.billohanlon.com, PossiBill@aol.com
505.983.2843
[Feel free to copy and share this handout, but please leave my contact information on it. If you want to use it for any commercial (money-making) activity, contact me for specific permission.]
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In line with the research of the month cited above, here is a handout for helping yourself or others develop the habit of appreciation and gratitude.
There are three types of appreciation:
1. Highlighting Gratitude to Oneself: Note to oneself things that one can be grateful for on a weekly basis
2. Savoring: Note to oneself or others what one appreciates aesthetically, like a beautiful sunset, a good meal, and so on
3. Expressing Gratitude to Others: Express appreciation to those people one values and is grateful to
Noting to oneself the things one appreciates
Some people do this daily, some people do it weekly, but developing a habit of gratitude and appreciation can be helpful.
One could note the things one appreciates about the day or the week as a way to do this.
One could also focus on the people one appreciates.
One could also note the things that others are struggling with and use that as the basis for appreciation and gratitude. Things like hearing about or noticing that others don't have enough to eat, don't have a place to live, are dealing with with serious illness or loss and so on.
Savoring the present
This usually involves attending to your sensory experience (sights, sounds, smells, touch and tastes) in the present.
Another element of savoring is not to multi-task. Do and notice just the thing one is involved in or doing. This might mean turning off the television or not reading while you are eating and instead focusing on the taste, texture or smells of the food you are eating.
Expressing gratitude to someone
Positive psychology researchers usually recommend writing a "Gratitude Letter" to someone to whom you are grateful and have never fully expressed your appreciation. They also recommend you be present when the person reads the letter. If that's too difficult, they suggest being on the phone or on a Skype video when the person reads the letter.
Try writing your own gratitude letter to someone. Be as specific as possible about the things you are grateful for and appreciate about them and/or what they have done for you.
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Upcoming New Boot Camps and Intensives in Santa Fe
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Book Writing and Publishing Boot Camp; Santa Fe, NM
Get motivated to write a book, write it well and get it published
November 17-21, 2008
with Bill O'Hanlon
See details at http://www.getyourbookwritten.com/publishingcourse/SantaFe.html
Public Speaker Book Camp
January 12-16, 2009
Small group coaching for becoming a paid speaker, delivering compelling talks and workshops and getting on the speaking circuit in Santa Fe
with Bill O'Hanlon
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For details, visit:
http://www.billohanlon.com/events/intensives/presentersbootcamp/billohanlon.html
February 16-20, 2009
Internet and Computer Boot Camp
Using the Web for More Time, to Spread Your Message More Effectively and to Create Ongoing Sources of Passive Income; Santa Fe, NM
with Bill O'Hanlon and Ryan Nagy, aka "The Web Whisperers"
For details, visit:
http://www.thewebwhisperers.com
I usually offer each of these once a year and they often fill very quickly, so if you are interested, please act quickly to reserve your place.
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| Announcements |
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I have just revised my e-report 30 Possibilities for Expanding Your Practice and Income Beyond the Therapy Room. It is on sale until July 31, 2008 for $14.95 (usually it is $19.95). It gives you ideas and links for creating income now and into retirement years that doesn't require you to be any particular place (and in some cases, no particular time either, so you can have a flexible schedule). Get it by clicking this link: Buy e-report by clicking here
Ryan Nagy, my partner in all things web-related, mentioned to me that he has 2 openings this summer for Internet marketing coaching. He's going to hold the spaces open for people who read this newsletter. If you are marketing online and want to increase your results, or if you are just starting out, Ryan is an excellent teacher. Send him an email directly (ryan@ryannagy.com) and tell him what you are interested in doing (He's pretty picky about who he works with).
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Bill O'Hanlon Workshop Schedule
223 N. Guadalupe #278, Santa Fe, NM 87501 USA; www.billohanlon.comInstructions for reading this itinerary: Under the month you will find the date(s) of each workshop, the title and location of the workshop. On the second line is the sponsor's name and contact information. If you are interested in attending a particular workshop, please contact the sponsor of that workshop for a brochure or to register. Thank you! August 2008
11-15-Positive Psychology in Clinical Work; Cape Cod, MA
New England Educational Institute, NEEI, http://www.neei.org
18-24-The Possibilities Process: Breakthrough to new places in your life [Filled; watch for new dates]; Truchas, NM
Possibilities, 505.983.2843, PossiBill@aol.comSeptember 2008
5-The Science of Happiness; San Diego, CA (American Psychotherapy Association Annual Conference)American Psychotherapy Association, 2750 E Sunshine, Springfield, MO 68504, 800-423-9737, conference@americanpsychotherapy.com; www.americanpsychotherapy.com12-Resolving Trauma Without Drama; St. Louis, MOBill Bumberry, St. John's Mercy Medical Center, 615 S. New Ballas Rd., St. Louis, MO 63141, billbumberry@charter.net26-28-Metaphors Be With You: Using Stories, Rituals, Analogies and Other Metaphorical Interventions in Changework; Whalley UKFran Burgess, Director of Training, Northern School of NLP, Whalley, ENGLAND; admin@nlpand.co.uk; www.nlpand.co.uk30/October 1-Working with Challenging Clients and Keeping your Soul Alive; Copenhagen, DENMARKHenrik Vesterhauge-Petersen, SOLUTION, www.solutionfocus.dk, tel +45 45874035, solution@solutionfocus.dkOctober 2008
3-Topic to be arranged; Ostersund, SWEDENMarie Forneman, marie.forneman@jll.se4/5-Positive Psychology: Practical Applications in Clinical Work; STOCKHOLM, SWEDENFramnas Skola & Terapicenter, Danderydsvagen 6, S-182 62 Djursholm, SWEDEN, fax 011+46+8.755.422.92, info@framnas.com; Ernst Salamon, Revisvorvagen 10, 120 47 Enskede Gara, SWEDEN, Tel: 011+46+8+91.30.30; ernst.salamon@bredband.net10-12-Positive Psychology: Practical Applications in Clinical Work; Santa Fe, NMNew England Educational Institute, NEEI, http://www.neei.org
27/28-The Seven Ways People Change in Therapy and Life; Toronto, ONT., CANADAMichael Kerman, Leading Edge Seminars, 88 Major St., Toronto, Ont, Canada M5S2L1; 416-964-1133; info@leadingedgeseminars.org; www.leadingedgeseminars.org
November 2008
8-Reel Love: Couples issues Through the Lens of the Movies; Albuquerque, NM
Jim Zacharias, NMAMFT, jzacharias1@gmail.com
13-Keeping Your Soul Alive (Keynote); Resolving Trauma Without Drama (3 hour presentation); Vancouver, BC, CANADA
Jack Hirose and Associates Inc., 1770 Orkney Place, North
Vancouver, BC, Canada V7H 2Z1; 604.924.0296; 1.800.456.5424; fax
604.924.0239
jackhirose@shaw.ca; www.jackhirose.com
17-21-Book Writing and Publishing Boot Camp; Santa Fe, NM
Possibilities, 505.983.2843, PossiBill@aol.com; see details at http://www.getyourbookwritten.com/publishingcourse/SantaFe.html
December 2008
8-10-Ericksonian Hypnosis (3-day intensive); Hilton Head, SC
11-Short session - Better Than Prozac: Translating the New Brain Science into Greater Clinical Results; Lunch session: How to Get More Time in Your Personal and Professional Life: The Promise of the 20-hour Workweek; Hilton Head, SC
The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine,
6D Ledgebrook Dr., P.O. Box 523, Mansfield Center, CT 06250, 800.743.2226; 860.456.1153; fax 860.423.4512; www.nicabm.com
13-Panel: Person of the Therapist: (w/Ken Hardy, John Norcross &
Michele Weiner-Davis); Panel: Brief Therapy for Depression (w/
Christine Padesky; Janis Abrahms Spring & Michael Yapko); Clinical
Demonstration: Inclusive Therapy; 2008 Brief Therapy Conference; San
Diego, CA
14-Inclusive Therapy: A Simple and Powerful Method of Dissolving
Resistance Derived from Permissive Hypnosis and Eastern Religion;
Change 101: The Seven Ways Change Occurs in Therapy and Life; 2008
Brief Therapy Conference; San Diego, CA
The Milton H. Erickson Foundation, 3606 N. 24th Street, Phoenix, AZ 85016, 602-944-6529, www.brieftherapyconference.com
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