CPR/First Aid Event
Mon Jun 1, 2009,
$75 per person
To RSVP to this event, call 212-744-6649
SPRING FAMILY GATHERING
Sat Jun 6, 2009, 3-6 pm
Mineral Springs Lawn
in Central Park
(see below for details)
June Mom's Night Out___________________
When: Mon June 8 ,2009
1814 2nd Avenue
(at 94th Street)
See Big Tent for more details
Monthly Speaker Series:
Meet Relationship Expert
Tue Jun 30, 2009, 6-9 pm
(Come for part of the meeting or the whole time!)
109 East 50th St
(Lexington and Park)
Time to focus on you and your relationship with your partner!
Join Rachel Sussman, LCSW and learn how to keep passion alive, improve your sex life, affair proof your relationship, and more.
Read more about Rachel
6:00 p.m. to 7:00 p.m. Pregnant Moms Q&A
Open discussion for pregnant moms. Hot topics discussed including breastfeeding, nanny's strollers and more.
7:00pm to 8:00pm
Parents Social Hour
parents welcome for our new hour long social. Hot Topic cards will be
distributed and questions will be answered on a more social basis.
7:30 to 9:00pm
Breastfeeding Support Group Meeting for Moms of Multiples
Fri Jul 10, 2009, 1-3 pm
715 9th Avenue (at 49th Street), New York, NY
For more event information visit the events page on Big Tent!
Save the Date(s)
June 6th -Family Picnic
October 4th - Family Picnic
October 27th - Tag Sale
Got any ideas for your club?
email us and we will organize it.
NEWS FROM NATIONAL:In this section of our newsletter you will find an assortment of information passed to us from the National Organization of Mothers of Twins Club in which we are ALL members! (Membership to this club is included in your dues)
MSMAM is comprised of Mothers of Adult Multiples from Nevada,
Arizona, California, New Mexico, Texas, Colorado, South Dakota, Montana
and Washington. All of our twins are over 18 years old with the oldest
being 52. We are all excited to be hosting the 49th Annual NOMOTC Convention at the Flamingo Hotel and Casino in Las Vegas.
Our theme Only in Vegas,
is sure to please everyone as the entertainment scene has plenty of its
classic glamour, but it has evolved to include so much more. In
addition to the iconic Las Vegas entertainment regulars, Las Vegas
offers a lineup of award-winning magicians, Broadway-caliber
productions, work-renowned concert headliners and unique-to-Vegas
We have some exciting events planned for you so
make your room reservations now and come join us in Las Vegas, July 26
- August 1, 2009.
A Copy of this monthsMultiple Messages
can be found here!
MULTIPLE BIRTH AWARENESS MONTH
A Big Thank You!
THANK YOU CLUBS - FOR EXECUTING SO WELL DURING THIS EXCITING MONTH!
It has been a joy to read about all the wonderful events our local
clubs planned for April in celebration of Multiple Birth Awareness
Month. But more importantly, it was very rewarding to read the
comments that came in by email when clubs sent in their posting.
Comments about the fun, excitement, and teamwork that planning their
events facilitated locally.
MORE MEMBERSHIP NEWS.....
26,000 MEMBERS - WE ARE ALMOST THERE!
Attention all clubs...please be sure and send in any new member dues as
soon as you can, at this point they won't count towards credentials,
however, they will help NOMOTC achieve 26,000 members for the 2009-10 year and those members will enjoy all the benefits of belonging to NOMOTC!
PURPOSE OF STUDY:
To examine some of the factors that affect family dynamics
when multiples are brought into or born into families as step siblings
or half siblings.
Parents/Caregivers of multiples who's children are attending school outside the home.
|PURPOSE OF STUDY: |
To identify the special needs and circumstances of military
parents of multiples(POMs); to examine how local clubs support and
connect with military POMs; to determine what additional support would
|Have Family Coming from out of town and don't know what to do?|
How about an Scavenger Hunt?
The Secrets of Central Park Family Scavenger Hunt
Recommended by Time Out New York and the New York Times|
Kids and adults work together to explore the park below 72nd Street. To
score points, you'll have to find Stuart Little, stick your tongue out
at a rude animal, learn the motto of a hidden eagle, decipher a secret
code by the pond seen in Home Alone 2,
spot Cupid at the Carousel, unscramble a message in the sky, and find a
witch turned to stone. For ages 7 and up. Kids must be accompanied by
an adult, and vice versa.
Not your usual visit to the Empire State Building, this is something totally different!
True pointillism may be a little more refined than this. But with a
giant make-it-yourself stamp pad and an array of circular printables,
your little one can turn plain paper into a delirium of dots.
Washable, nontoxic tempera paint
Circle makers, such as Bubble Wrap, cotton balls, Q-tips, potatoes cut in half, round scrub brushes, and jar lids
Before you begin: Cover work surface, keep wipes handy, and wear a smock or old clothes
Time needed: About 2 to 3 Hours
Begin by placing a large damp sponge on a cookie sheet. Squirt a few
blobs of tempera paint onto the sponge, then either fold the sponge
together to get the paint absorbed or roll it lightly with a rolling
pin. Now you have a large nontoxic stamp pad that's great for all kinds
3. Offer your child lots of items that print
circle shapes (see What You Need for ideas). Tape a large piece of
paper to the table. Then show your child how to press the stamp into
the ink pad and then onto the paper, lifting straight up to make a
clean print. But don't worry about holding her to this method -- after
all, if your child drags Bubble Wrap across the page, who cares?
Keep the fun going! This is a great time to talk about circles (and
other shapes) with your child. You can also go on a scavenger hunt
around the house for round things.
Getting Started with Creative Projects for Little Hands
Keep it safe. Make sure supplies are labeled nontoxic and are not
choking hazards. Discourage kids from putting supplies in their mouths.
2. Set it up. Designate an art area in your home with an easel or a
low table where young artists can stand to work (this is usually easier
3. Don't rush. Make sure you allow plenty of time for setup, exploration, and cleanup.
4. Don't stress over mess. Set things up so cleanup is easier for you, then try to relax and let your child have fun.
5. Write it down. Before you forget, write the date on your child's creation and, if she's talking, what she said about it.
Thanks: Family Fun
What's for Breakfast: Cheesy Vegetable Scramble
PREP: 5 minutes
COOK: about 5 minutes
YIELD: 2 servings
1 tsp butter
1 Tbs thinly sliced scallion
2 Tbs thinly sliced zucchini or asparagus
1 Tbs sliced red or green pepper
Salt and pepper to taste
1. Tbs grated reduced-fat mozzarella or cheddar 1. In a small
skillet, melt butter. Add vegetables, salt, and pepper, and cook over
medium heat for 3 minutes, stirring frequently.
2. Crack eggs directly into skillet. Using a fork or whisk, scramble into the vegetables.
3. Sprinkle on cheese and cook about 11-12 minutes, or until eggs are
cooked and cheese has melted. Serve with toast, bagels, or English
HOW KIDS CAN HELP: Measure ingredients; older kids can sprinkle on cheese.
PER SERVING 111 calories, 8 g fat (4 g saturated), 232 mg sodium, 221 mg cholesterol If YOU would like to contribute to our newsletter, email us with your favorite recipe and you will see it posted here!
|National Organization News|
ATTN: PASSWORD FOR THE NATIONAL SITE!
Did you know that as a member of the Manhattan Twins Clubs you are automatically a member of the National Organization of Mothers of Twins Clubs? With that said, you have full access to all their members only sections of their own website.
FOR the password to this site, visit our Big Tent Page and look under "Files"
On the national site you will find a whole bunch of other forums, info on special needs twins, a new study on birth weight and length, and a new section for Single Parents of Twins! So go and check it out!
We know you need a massage.
|Darcie Edwards, the MTC's resident monthly meeting masseuse, is currently booking in home appointments for April, May and June.
Licensed Massage Therapist, Certified Pre-Natal, Post-Natal, Medical and Deep Tissue Massages.
today for the best massage experience of your life. You can quote me on that!
This is by far the best Mothers Day Gift you can give. Gift Certificates are available.
Currently for sale on our Big Tent site under "classifieds" you will find -
White Jenny Lind changing table
White Jenny Lind crib-CHEAP!
2 Chicco portable highchairs
graco bumper jumper
Sassy Seat Doorway Jumper
EZ Nurse pillow
Double URBAN Mountain Buggy
Two Crib Bedding Sets
Two sleep positioners
Quattro Tour Duo Stroller
Double Snap n go
Check the Classified section of our
|Welcome New Members!For those of you who are just joining us, welcome to what is going to be a fun and busy new life.Our
club was founded almost 15 years ago and started in a basement
community room on the Upper West Side. We have since grown to be the
largest twin club in the nation under the National Organization of
Mothers of Twins Clubs with over 900 members annually! As a member of our club you get:
- This stunning and informative newsletter
- Access to our Big Tent site which features forums, classifieds, reviews and more
to all our monthly gatherings including our Monthly Speaker Series with
social hour, Monthly Mom's night out dinner, Semi-annual picnics, spa
days, tag sales and whatever else we have up our sleeve for 2009!
- Access to over a years worth of questions and answers in our Big Tent Forums
- Member Only discounts to local stores and classes throughout NYC
- And round the clock support via web.
Once again welcome to the best club in the nation and the best years of your lif
you have me (Natalie)! If you need anything and can't find it, or have
a question that you just can't get answered, or a problem that just
can't be solved, just call me! 917-442-2020. I can help, and if I
can't, odds are, I know who can.
My daughter Anna, 4 years old, was watching Batman. Apparently the Joker was in this episode and she said
"Ma, I can't watch this, it scares me. I don't like when the Joker wears his EyePod".
Ahh, I love when kids mix stuff up like this!
Have a funny story you want to share, email us
Summer Time...And The Living is Easy... Yeah, sure it is! The people strolling around town who are singing that, either don't live in today's economy and/or don't have multiples! lol
I, for one, am trilled that we no longer need to bundle up the twinnies and wonder how much longer they will have a cold. I say this every year, but this winter was a tough one.
So as I look ahead, into the sunshine, I'm reminded of all the good things that have recently happened.
- A major milestone for our club has been reached! We have finally attended our first State conference (see report below) and we are attending the National conference in July (Viva Las Vegas, it's all work I tell ya!)
- We seem to have perfected our Big Tent site (if you disagree, please email us)
- We had some very successful events recently, including our Mommy Social which we awarded Kristi Metzger with our Member of The Year Award
- Our Nanny Compensation Survey for this year is DONE! (see results below)
- And we are ready for the SUMMER!
So ladies, it's time to stock up on sunscreen, get the shorts out of the closet, and prepare to have fun!
Even if you can't take a vacation out of town this year, I'm including some tips below on how to make your "stay-cation" even MORE fun!
So bring on the SUN! Have a great month!
|"What's Happening Under
WHAT HAVE WE BEEN
TALKING ABOUT ON THE BIG TENT DISCUSSION GROUP?
· Where to sit in a minivan?
· Does Dairy cause Congestion?
· Refusing to Breastfeed
· Sleeping through the night
· Where to keep potties?
· Acupuncture with IVF
· Summertime products you love!
· Portable cribs-Need Immediate Advice
· Looking for a great endocrinologist in NYC
· How to get dehydrated 9 month olds to drink water out of a
· When to interview for a mother's helper/nanny?
· Bottle with solids-7 ½ month old twins
· Advice on tandem strollers?
· Good Books on raising twins?
BIG TENT CONVERSATION
OF THE MONTH
Nanny Reality Check
"Our boys are almost 14 months
and we've had their nanny for the last 10. We love the way that she cares for
them, takes pride in them and really is just a completely responsible and
loving caregiver. However... when we hired her we offered her 'X' amount of
dollars... two weeks vacation of our choosing and one of hers, as well as 3
sick days. Theoretically, these terms were non-negotiable until her 1 year
review and she enthusiastically agreed to them. Plus, I can't offer time that I
can't take off from work. I had been warned by one of her previous employers
that 'everything would turn into a negotiation.' Low and behold, it did. We
have given her TWO raises since she started (we are well within reasonable pay
rates for our neighborhood). and every six weeks or so another issue seems to
come up of something that we aren't doing to her satisfaction.
Well, this week she called in
sick on Monday and also let us know that she wanted to take Friday as a sick
day for a doctor's appointment. My husband and I both work outside of the home,
so covering two days at the last minute in one week was a challenge. I called
her to discuss how she was doing (i.e. would she be in to work the next day?)
and the fact that she is down to her last sick day for the year - acknowledging
that she has announced vague plans to take a week to visit family this summer -
planning to use her 'chosen' vacation time. She said nothing yesterday (my MIL
was visiting and with her) but today, at the end of the day and in front of the
babies, she let loose with this commentary about how we didn't give her enough
discretionary days and how 'everyone else' gets so much more. Basically, she
accused us of being opportunistic slave-drivers.
I had had enough of feeling
pushed around and told her that it wasn't a discussion I was willing to have
until her year review. We've given her over FIVE weeks of paid time off in the
last 10 months! There was a lot of back and forth (including her basically
calling me a liar) and it ended with her giving me notice until I could find
someone to replace her. I have spoken to the families that employ the other
nannies she was referring to and they basically said that what she was quoting
was incorrect, that they had very similar arrangements - if not more
restrictive - to ours.
My questions: Does everybody's
nanny renegotiate all the time? Am I really giving her a substandard deal
(time-off wise)? Do I tell her that she is delusional and her friends are
basically lying to her?
Am I crazy?"
"I don't think all nannies renegotiate that way, but
many do. I also think your nanny is a little crazy to feel so entitled in an
economy where many caregivers are being let go or their hours reduced. But
given that she did it before it sounds like her personality issues. I have had
a few part-time nannies and one of them tried to constantly renegotiate her
salary, sick days etc and I found it intolerable. I thought she generally
interacted well with my girls, but I couldn't stand having her around. So I
ended up letting her go after 10 months and felt a tremendous relief and also found
there were people out there much more suitable for me, happy with what I had to
offer salary and benefit wise and could also take very good care of my little
girls. Still changing caregivers is a big adjustment. I think you need to
figure out if you can live with her cause it doesn't sound like she's going to
change. I would also be sure if a reference says something negative or highly
questionable to probe further and take it seriously. Most people don't give
references who say negative things!! I think there are a lot of very good
nannies out there right now and that yours will have a hard time finding a good
think that is totally unacceptable. In my opinion I think she was looking for
another job because I don't think you just quit a job in this market without
another one. I have had my nanny for 5 years, since my twins were born. I also
have an 11 month old. My nanny has never acted like that ever. In fact I did
not give her a raise for the last year only because we have given her raises every
year and she never asked me for one or why she didn't get one. My nanny gets 2
weeks vacation and sick and personal days, too be honest, I never keep track of
her sick or personal days because she rarely takes any days. "
"It appears the traditional Nannies in NYC hold twin
Moms to ransom. I have heard of several cases where the parents kept giving in
to demands of these Nannies as they felt that is what everyone else is doing.
There are plenty of reliable, healthy educated Nannies out there for you who will
not be so demanding and be grateful to have a job of any kind in the current
economic climate. My Nanny of 2 years have only had one pay increase since she
started because that is all we can afford. However, she is treated like part of
the family, gets discretionary gifts throughout the year, get taken out for
dinner etc. She have only been ill once and has worked 7 days a week for the
last 3 weeks as we have had overseas guests and I had to travel abroad for one
week. We rely on our Nanny 100% as we have no family in the US and she is
the only adult our boys are used to apart from myself and my husband. Find
another Nanny and tell her good luck and good bye. Take control of this
situation and you will move on have a happy, secure environment for your babies
and for yourself and your husband."
I were your friend I would tell you that where you went wrong was in
renegotiating the first time. However, as a fellow mommy in the struggle, I
think you did the best thing you knew to do at that time. In hindsight, we know
that people are people. What we didn't know is that a grown person would try to
carry you like a pre-socialized toddler. So, I've reordered my worst in life -
dealing contractors is worst than dating, and dealing with nanny's who try to
get over is worse than dealing with a good contractor dragging his feet. You're
torn because she's good to your kids. At the end of the day, no means no. I
personally don't care if its my kids, my mom, my whatever. I looked at how I
can tell the folks who love me no in a heartbeat so why shouldn't I tell
someone else no if no is appropriate. I think you are right to move on. Can it
lead to a headache - YES. But being nickled and dimed and basically swindled by
deceit makes you question her character and therefore what's best for your
kids. Cut the loss, the kids will move on (trust me and trust me some more they
do) and just hold your position in the future to avoid this. While no strategy
or plan goes without bumps, try to focus on the positive once you cut her loose
so you don't become enraged thinking of it. Good luck and please reach out if
you need to."
are several things about your nanny's behavior that you described in your post
that bother me. First and foremost is her approach. You are her employer, she is
your employee. This is a job, albeit a much different one than, say, working in
an office. However, some of the same expectations do apply. For example, if
there is an issue she would like to address with you, she should let you know
that and schedule a time that would be good for both of you. It is completely
unprofessional to blurt this out at the end of her shift. That being said, she
sounds friggin' nuts. I mean, I received 5 weeks vacation at my old job ...
after being there for 10 years! Her expectations are completely ridiculous.
What job do you know of that offers so much time off right off the bat? To be
honest, I wouldn't be under the impression that her friends are lying to her,
but rather that she's lying to you when she tells her friends have all these
Bottom line,: You are NOT crazy.
For a full listing of all the topics, visit our "forums" section on Big Tent!
MY GYM COULD BE YOUR GYM!
I just wanted to tell you about my girls' experience with MY
GYM located on 22 West 66th
Street off of Central Park West. My girls have
been attending MY GYM since they were a year old and they are now 2 years old.
And they still find it to be a fun filled and challenging experience!
MY GYM offers a very dynamic and activity filled gym class
for babies and toddlers. They have a large space and lots of equipment such as
a trampoline, tree house, slides, stairs, a horizontal hanging bar, a tub of
plastic balls for kids to swim around in and even swings. It is a great place
for little ones on both cold and hot days to work out their jiggles and
wiggles. The staff is also constantly cleaning the toys and equipment making
the place as germ free as possible.
I like that the hour long gym classes are a nice mix of
structured and unstructured activities starting with a circle time where the
little ones do exercises with the assistance of their caretakers as well as
little tumbling exercises such as somersaults and head stands. There is also a
surprise "adventure" every class for the little ones to try out. Towards the
end of class there is a short separation time, where the tots play with toys
while staff interacts with them and parents sit back and relax a little. Then
the class ends with a puppet show and the goodbye song.
MY GYM membership also includes a weekly free play. MY GYM
offers a 50% discount for the second sibling so it is a good deal for twins. My
girls even take an art class there! The staff is warm and supportive and great
with kids. For a limited time, one can get an additional $25 off on their My
Gym membership if they are referred by a current member (such as myself). So give
them a call and try it out: 212-724-3400.
York State Mothers of Twins
Club Annual Convention
by Natalie Diaz
Every year, at the end of April, the New York State Mothers of Twins Clubs
holds their annual convention.
In the history of the Manhattan Twins Club, we have never attended, but this
year we put an end to that.
After taking a SUPER quick JetBlue flight out of JFK I arrived in Rochester. I checked in
to the beautiful Woodcliff Hotel AND Spa, setteled into my beautiful room, got
all my paperwork together to begin working, and then went down to the lobby to
Attending well over 100 conferences in my day (I worked in Marketing for an
African Tour Operator in my previous life), I figured I would get down to
business gathering as much info as I can from sister clubs.
I went with the mission of finding out:
#1. How do we retain members beyond the 5 year point.
#2. How do other clubs raise funds
#3. How do we form partnerships with other MOT area clubs
#4. How do other clubs run their events
#5. What services do other clubs offer their members
and the list continued till you hit about #40 or so.
I got my notebook, some club cards, and went on my fact finding mission.
To my surprise, I found NO ONE! There was no twin moms to be found. Being that
this was my first time spending more than 40 hours away from my twins, whom are
now almost five, I decided to take the opportunity to relax, and went down to
the pool to watch the sunset.
When I got down to the pool area, I found the hot tub to be jumpin! AH
HA, I've found all the twin moms. The atmosphere seemed more like a sorority
party then a twins club event. Little did I know, these two are NOT mutually
After a round of introductions and they found out where I was from, I felt like
the bell of the ball! Since the NYC club has never attended, and we have the
largest numbers, it never made sense to them. So what I thought was going
to fact finding mission, they flipped it right around on me and I was the one
getting interrogated, but in a good way. You see, for the past eight years or
so, our NYS representative (who is the one who gets all the info on state
conventions) was missing in action! So we were left out of the loop for
I immediately clicked with this group of moms, all of whom are with the MOT of Buffalo, and they let me
in on all the tips and tricks of the weekend. First of all, they came to
"work" first, but planned on partying like rock starts! Since
this is an annual convention, it's the one time a year that some of the moms
see each other, so they come early and stay late, literally. They arrive
a few days early, see the local sites, and then it's all business.
I was quickly told to "look for the turtles". If there was a
turtle on the door of a room, it meant that the room belonged to one of
"us" and I would be welcomed there. I didn't know the full extent of
the turtles till later in the weekend when I was initiated into a secret
society revolving turtles (you'll have to come next year to find out what that
is all about).
I can go on for days about how wonderful everyone was, and how welcoming they
were. I already look forward to next years meeting on a personal note. It was also a sheer delight to FINALLY meet moms from our local area clubs, Queens, Westchester, Nassau and Suffolk County. (You might see some more news from those clubs since we are currently in the working trying to figure out some kind of associate membership)
On a business note, I got all my questions answered, found out how State runs
their organization, seconded my first motion at the business meeting, came in
3rd in the Newsletter Contest (they didn't accept web formats), received an
award for being the new NY State Representative, and even got elected to a
position on the NYSMOTC Executive Committee! You are now looking at a member of
the nominating committee, thank you very much!
On a personal note, I had the best girls weekend of my life (not in Vegas), met
a group of women who I immediately bonded with, re-realized how special it is
to be a twin mom, had a few to many JelloShots, danced till my feet were
sore, attended my first sock hop, had a massage, watched the sunset over the
BEAUTIFUL hills of Rochester, and got welcomed into a sisterhood that I was
always apart of.
This convention is open to ALL members who are part of the New York State
club, and that means YOU.
So next year, let's make a pact, don't make me go alone! Attend the
convention with me and experience the same joys I did. Next year I am
going prepared, I'm entering myself into the door sign contest, buying a new
costume for the theme party (I scrambled at the last minute) and making my own
concoction of JelloShots to share with the rest of the group!
It was my pleasure attending on the Manhattan Twins Club behalf, but as I said,
next year, who's coming with me?
Taking Your Twins on Vacation
By Christina Baglivi Tinglof
Contributing writer for Twins Magazine
I gave birth to my fraternal twins boys, I vowed they would never keep
me at home. After all, I had been a woman on the go having romped my
way around Europe and Australia by the time I was 25. So naturally I
pictured my husband and me calming strolling the Champs Élysées while
our babies peacefully napped in their double stroller. With my twins'
arrival, however, the bubble didn't exactly burst but it certainly
fizzled a bit.
I wrestled daily trying to get my twins out the door my attitude began
to change. By the time they were fed, diapered and dressed, I had to
nurse them again. Often I'd throw up my arms and cancel my plans-it was
just too difficult to be mobile with young twins. Yet I persisted and
over time I became more confident and resourceful. We managed to travel
not only to the supermarket, but my boys have logged many miles both in
the air and on the highway. Today, even after the birth of my third
son, my husband and I find family travel to be an enjoyable adventure.
with your young twins can be daunting. All that equipment times two. A
double bundle and not enough hands. But traveling with your little band
doesn't have to be stressful. In fact, with a little planning, some
flexibility, and a sense of humor, taking a trip with your twins can be
fun. Not only does traveling as a family build your confidence as a
parent, but also the kids learn about their world around them and
quickly become adaptable adults.
it's a trip across state to see the in-laws or across the ocean to see
the Continent, the biggest drawback to traveling anywhere with
multiples is all the paraphernalia that they require. Wherever you
travel, however, remember to keep things simple. When it comes to
traveling with twins, less is usually better. Less to pack and carry
means you can concentrate on having fun with the kids.
short jaunts to grandma's house, for instance, ask if she can borrow
cribs and high chairs from neighbors or friends. Many people keep baby
equipment for years and would welcome the chance to put it to use. Or,
rent them once you arrive-it's surprisingly inexpensive. Better yet,
keep a spare right there (hit local garage sales for a deal on used
high chairs and portable cribs).
gear can do double duty, too. Car seats, for example, can act as bouncy
seats and even as high chairs in a pinch. Don't pack two
port-a-cribs-most infant twins can sleep in one until they're about six
months old. (Just place a rolled-up towel down the center to keep each
one on his side.)
you're traveling overseas, carefully consider the country and type of
trip you'll be taking (will you be staying put or moving around?) so
that you can decide what equipment will help rather than hinder your
touring. Unlike the United States where handicap ramps are commonplace,
most of Europe and Asia is not stroller friendly. You'd be better off
with two backpacks instead of a double stroller, for instance, while
wandering the stair-filled passageways of Venice, Italy, or the
castle-packed English countryside. Be sure to borrow or purchase
backpacks with sturdy frames and hip support, and always try out the
packs weeks before you leave by walking around with your twins
carefully stowed in the overhead compartment. Toting a 20-pound child
is hard work, and when each parent is carrying a twin, there's no
opportunity to trade off. Many parents with twins bring both backpacks
and lightweight umbrella strollers allowing many touring options: two
backpacks, two strollers, or one stroller and one backpack. Still, some
bare-bones families choose to take only one of each and have the kids
what about port-a-cribs? Many smaller European hotels and inns won't
have cribs. Savvy families with multiples either have their children
sleep with them, or create makeshift beds by removing two dresser
drawers and padding them with towels and blankets. Be sure to pack a
nightlight, too. With two small children sleeping in a strange place,
you're bound to get up at least once during the night.
two siblings of different ages, twins don't need separate wardrobes
(unless they're boy-girl twins). They can share play clothes (go with
dark stripes instead of white-they won't show stains as easily),
cutting down on what you'll need to pack. To help organize everyone's
stuff, yours included, use large, self-sealing plastic bags-T-shirts in
one bag, socks in another. A bag for each category of clothing keeps
things orderly, eliminating long, messy hunts through your suitcase.
caveat to twin touring is the diaper dilemma. Two babies use up a lot!
If you're traveling within the states, you're just a supermarket away
from a clean diaper. But it's a different story in the rest of the
world. Although many European and Asian countries now carry
disposables, sometimes the product name, sizes, and quality are
different, and often they're much more expensive. To add to your
troubles, you many not find any in that quaint hillside village or
remote Caribbean island where you're staying. To combat the problem,
fill a duffel bag with disposables purchased here in the states, and
then fold up the empty bag and pack away in your suitcase or use it to
tote souvenirs home.
Fly Me Two the Moon
the Federal Aviation Administration (FAA) allows a child under the age
of two to fly free if he sits on the lap of an adult, parents should
purchase seats for everyone. When each parents holds a twin, there's no
break for anyone. There are no extra hands if someone needs to use the rest room, and it's impossible to eat while balancing a baby on your lap. Besides infants, babies,
and toddlers sleep much better when in a car seat. While you can hope
for two empty seats, they're quickly becoming extinct now that airlines
are cutting back on flights and experiencing record numbers of
passengers. Most importantly, a child flying unrestrained is in danger,
especially during severe turbulence. (FYI: The FAA requires everything
down to the coffee pots to be secure during take off and landing with
the exception of babies under the age of two. That should tell you
flying is expensive, there are ways to save money. Many airlines offer
reduced-priced tickets for children under age 11 flying out of the
country. Staying in the states? Try one of the low-cost airlines such
as JetBlue and Southwest. JetBlue offers individual satellite TV on
every flight-it keeps the kids totally entertained for hours!
aware, too, that each airline has different guidelines concerning how
many car seats it will allow per aisle. Some permit only one seat per
row causing families with twins to split up during the flight. Be sure
to ask when booking your tickets.
the most stressful part of traveling with twins is navigating through
the airport. Always give yourself plenty of time. It's better to arrive
at the gate an hour ahead of departure time and let the kids run or
crawl off some steam than to race through the terminal dragging them
behind. Teach them from early age that everyone is responsible for his
or her own luggage, too. Yes, even a two year old can wheel a small
piece of carry-on luggage, and it's amazing how less stressful it is on
you. Invest in a fold-up luggage cart. It's essential for transporting
those bulky toddler car seats (and safer than piling them on top of
your double stroller). And don't forget to ask the gate attendant for
"priority boarding." Not all advertise that they'll let young families
board first, but if you ask most will accommodate.
Eat, Sleep, Be Merry
booking a hotel room, ask if cribs are free. Some hotels charge upwards
of $20 per night per crib. Ask for the largest room within your price
category (sometimes corner rooms are bigger), too, or if the hotel
offers a discount for adjoining rooms. With two cribs, you'll need the
it comes to dining out, family-friendly restaurants are key to having a
good time. Look for a restaurant with a kid's menu, and a casual dining
room, void of tables dressed in linen and china. Always call ahead to
reserve two high chairs. While in Santa Fe, not a very child-friendly
city, we neglected to do just that, and ended up taking turns holding a
baby all through dinner. While infants often sleep even in the loudest
restaurants, if you have toddlers, eat early before the crowds and be
sure to pack a plethora of distractions-crayons and paper, books, small
you have the travel bug, don't let your multiples hold you back. Hit
the road when they're young, and travel often. Start by taking small,
overnight trips and once you feel confident, the sky's the limit.
Author's Bio: Christina
Tinglof is the mother of three sons including 12-year-old fraternal boys and a
10-year-old singleton. She's also the author of Parenting School-Age Twins
and Multiples, and Double Duty:
The Parents' Guide to Raising Twins. Her website is www.talk-about-twins.com.
Mothers of Twins-Parents and Babies / birth-2 yrs
Starting Soon....for more info visittheir website
The answers to three questions most
often asked of a babyproofer
by Rene Appelbaum,
co-owner of Baby Proofers Plus, Inc
Why hire a professional baby proofer?
to a December 2008 Center for Disease Control Childhood Injury Report, during
the years 2000-2005, over 16,000 children under the age of four years, died
from a preventable and controllable cause.
More specifically, these deaths were
caused by suffocation (which includes choking, strangulation and entrapment
(representing a striking 40%), drowning (20%) and another 15% of fatal injuries
resulted from being struck by or falling into objects such as sharp corners.
statistics for preventable injuries and deaths among young children is alarming
--- for sure every parent wants to keep their children safe and help them live
to their full potential.
baby proofer better understands and sees these problems and can help reduce the
risk that one of your children will become part of these devastating
statistics. For some things it is best to have a baby proofer provide
protection while, for other situations the baby proofer can give parents
practical tips for prevention. The combination of these two strategies can
significantly help lower the number of casualties in and around the home.
professional baby proofer will recommend and properly install the best safety
products to improve the overall safety of the children's surrounding
environment. On average, a typical two
bedroom, two bath apartment in NYC costs $500-$600 to baby proof, safety
products and installation included.
When is the right time to baby proof
your children become mobile and inquisitive - age can vary, typically 6 months
- 9 months.
the process early and build on it - it is always best to be ready.
it in stages allows parents to baby proof their home incrementally as their
children grow and develop. You want to
be proactive not reactive.
the obvious dangers taken care of initially and then see how your children
develop --- crib to bed, a pet, moving to a new/larger home, etc. - all could
be reasons for stage 2 baby proofing.
What are some surprising hidden
dangers most often found in a home?
wires near cribs. If a baby can pull the wire through the crib slats he/she can
then bite onto a live electrical wire or wrap the cord around their neck.
Solution: Be sure the wire is out of reach.
children mimic what they see (monkey see, monkey do) belts, neckties, dog
leashes, scarves, and other typical household items 7" or longer should not be
hanging around. You don't want your
children wrapping one of these items around their neck.
chokable dangers include things like coins, jewelry, pills, buttons, bottle
water caps, small refrigerator magnets, etc. You get the idea. Get down on all
fours and check under appliance and furniture (your children's territory) for
these and other small chokable hazards. If it fits inside of a toilet paper
holder it's probably a chokable hazard.
might think your children are totally safe when being carried by an adult. But,
now that your children are higher up, any distraction like answering a phone or
checking the stove top means your babies can grab items like knives on a
counter-top, dimmer light switches, window blind cords, dangling telephone
cords, etc. Take notice and look at
these typical household items from a new, educated perspective.
a shoe fetish like so many Moms do? Be
sure you remove the silica deodorizer packet that comes in the shoe boxes of
all new shoes. They are the perfect size for little hands and little mouths.
plastic dry cleaning bags, plastic shopping bags, kitchen wraps with serrated
edges on boxes and food storage bags out of reach of your children. Any plastic presents a danger to a youngster
if they put it near their mouth.
forget grandma's house - before you put your babies down on the floor to crawl
around and explore - make sure everything is safe and sound (i.e. make sure there are no pills on the
floor that grandma/grandpa dropped and forget to pick up).
Editorial provided by Rene Appelbaum,
co-owner of Baby Proofers Plus, Inc., a leading
and trusted full-service child safety company helping parents in NYC/NJ avoid
preventable home accidents and injuries since 1993.
For more information: www.babyproofersplus.com, 212.628.8052.
Twins Club members receive 15% discount on all safety products
SURVEY RESULTS ARE IN
Here is the experience of the "average" Manhattan Twins Club
twins who are between 12 and 23 months
a caregiver full time, 40.0 hours/week
- Pays $811
the following paid holidays
Years Day (January 1)
Day (end of May)
Day (July 4)
Day (beginning of September)
(end of November)
11 paid vacation/personal/sick days per year
the caregiver a Metrocard
the following duties and responsibilities of the caregiver:
children to classes
Need a Staycation!
Here are some ideas:
- Dine Al Fresco (June 1 - September 7, 2009) 8:00AM-4:00PM Mulberry Street Pedestrian Mall Streets are closed except to pedestrian traffic. Come Eat Drink and Be Merry! Pets even welcome since you can enjoy lunch outside!Governors Island
- Need to see some green? Visit Governors Island! Tons of free activities for children and adults alike.
- Mermaid Parade. Have kids that are obsessed with Ariel? This is your chance for your kids to see "real" mermaids... check out the aquarium that weekend as well. I've never missed this event!
See next month's newsletter for more ideas!!!! P.S. anyone wanna meet at Maclaren? I'll gladly be there with my monsters.
- Melting Outside? Time for a Movie? Every Thursday morning, the folks at Clearview Cinemas are handing over
two of their Manhattan theaters to a "growing" customer base. Families
can enjoy such faves as Madagascar: Escape 2 Africa and The Tale of Despereaux
on the big screen while cooling off in industrial-strength AC (that's
our idea of thrills and chills). Tickets go fast; please arrive no
later than 10am. Thursdays at 10:30am, Jul 2-Aug 20.
- Calypso Soca Caribbean Party. Couldn't swing a Jamaican vacation this year? There's always Flushing.
The limber can limbo to music by Bob Marley, the Mighty Sparrow and
other rhythmic masters performed by Tribal Legacy. This party is one of
four garden concerts at the Smithsonian-affiliated cultural center. Jul 26 at 2pm. Flushing Town Hall, 137-35 Northern Blvd at Main St, Flushing, Queens
- Maclaren Soho Playdate- Even a company that sells strollers designed by Burberry, Kate Spade
and Philippe Starck is not oblivious to the needs of the less rich and
famous. On Wednesdays, the showroom screens kiddie flicks like Kung Fu Panda; on Tuesdays and Thursdays, it provides a complimentary space for playdates, along with free snacks and art supplies. Screenings:
Wednesdays 11am-2pm; playdates: Tuesdays, Thursdays 11am-2pm;
reservations suggested. 150 Wooster St between Prince and W Houston Sts