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Being in a relationship can be an interesting balancing act. Ideally, you and your partner agree on everything. But realistically, there are bound to be issues and situations on which you disagree, from where to eat for dinner to how to discipline your child. So, with two people equally involved and important, how do you keep a sense of individuality when you have to compromise?
Here are a few golden rules to compromising with your loved one:
Be honest. Express yourself. Make sure to tell your partner how you're feeling, even if it's uncomfortable to do so. With honest expression comes honest reactions and that foundation gives you the ability to have a clear, transparent discussion with one another. It also reinforces that your feelings matter. Remember to listen when your partner expresses him or herself too.
Don't agree just to avoid confrontation. If you're afraid of confrontation, you may have a tendency to censor yourself in order to avoid it. But this can completely shut down any chance of your needs and ideas being met. From there, resentment grows and you may feel like your partner always "wins". It may feel scary, but if you strongly disagree, try voicing your opinion. Then at least you're both on the playing field.
Recognize when a small disagreement is hiding a larger one. You know that moment when you get into a huge fight over dirty dishes? That's most likely because there are other unresolved issues at hand. The dirty dishes become an "easier" thing to discuss than your feelings of being neglected. Take a moment, breathe and see if something else comes up.
Be compassionate with each other. If you and your partner are clearly expressing yourselves, listening to each other and taking the scary step to have a disagreement, then it's also extremely important to recognize and accept each other's needs and opinions. Compromising is hard because someone may feel like they're "losing." But there can be great comfort and love in putting your partner first. And if you're taking turns doing this, then you are truly compromising.
Keep your sense of humor. Laughter can really be the best medicine. We all have our quirks; being able to laugh at yourself is an incredibly liberating trait. It may not be appropriate in every disagreement, but if you can keep your sense of humor through the every day discussions and compromises, you'll probably find them a lot easier to get through. And your sense of self will still be intact.
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