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Love and Life
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Love and Life
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| LMF News | May 2010 | |
Dear friends,
Hi...I hope you are all well. Believe it or not this is the May newsletter, even though I realise May is practically over! But the up side to that is that you won't have to wait long for the June edition!
This month we have included a few more of the podcasts we recorded on the 'Hot Topics' that everyone asks about. Last month we also recorded some of those podcasts to video and we have the first one in this edition, it is Mary Joseph looking at the question of large families.
We have a new person in our office. Amy Vierboom has joined us and there is an article from her entitled 'My Fertility Disease'.
And to balance up the life aspect of the 'Life, Marriage and Family Centre' we have included an article that looks at burying the dead, a forgotten work of mercy.
We have had a lot of new subscribers since our April edition so a big welcome to you all. If you do like our little newsletter we'd love you to pass it on too family and friends. You will can forward to a friend by clicking right here.
Enough from us, enjoy the newsletter and we'll see you again soon!
The Life, Marriage and Family Centre Team |
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'Hot Topics' Podcasts | |
Dealing with the Difficult Issues
In the April edition of the newsletter (archives) we listed the first four of a series of podcasts we had been recording for Xt3.com. Here are some more of our 'Hot Topics' podcasts. Have a listen and pass around to others.
How to Enjoy Dating Without the Battle Scars
Joanne Lucas
Mary Joseph
Bernard Toutounji
Chris Meney
See the full list of our podcasts at Xt3.com
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Moving Closer to Homosexual Marriage | | |
A Relationships Register
The latest push in a series of moves to bring about homosexual 'marriage' has been a proposed relationships register to allow a public recognition of those couples (hetrosexual or homosexual) who are in defacto relationships.
While it is been declared that this is not a move to change the definition of marriage it is a definate blurring of the distinctions between what is and is not marriage. Once a society has been significently confused about a reality it is no longer a struggle to bring about whatever change is desired.
Marriage is not something that can be allowed to be pushed aside or trivialised:
- Marriage is the bedrock of the family and the foundation of every society and the state has a duty to protect and foster it.
- Children need a mother and a father, they need the complementary example that each provides.
- Male and female are oriented towards the generation of life. A same sex relationship is intrinsically sterile.
The Australian Family Association has put up an informative one page article about the state of issue, including a petition and details to contact the relevant government ministers. View that page here.
It's quite simple...if we do nothing to defend marriage now...it will all look very different later.
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Fear of Commitment? | | |
Recongnise the Signs
Mary Beth Bonacci - Well, maybe we're not talking about you , per se, but we're looking at the various factors in singles' lives that may stand in the way of marriage -- factors you may or may not recognise in yourself. For the past few months we've talked about how to pray about this - to be open to seeing what areas of our lives may need healing, and how to ask for that healing.
This month we're going to start talking about what some of those factors might be.
The way I see it, most of what gets in the way of marriage falls into two broad categories - things that make potential spouses not want us, and things that make us not want potential spouses. Breaking the second category down further, we have situations where there things about those potential spouses that make them unacceptable to us, and other times when we're reluctant to take the risk because of something (ie fear) going on inside ourselves. Only we often confuse the last two. Not wanting to admit even to ourselves that we're afraid, we blame our reluctance on some kind of fault - real or imagined - in the other person.
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Same Sex Attraction and the Catholic Church | | |
Take Courage
In this Salt and Light Televison program you will hear from those who experience same sex attraction, their parents and from those within the Church who minister to them. What does the Church really say about homosexuality? Is there a difference between actions and inclinations?

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Children and God | | |
The Happiness in Their Hearts
One of the greatest challenges of being a parent is figuring out what and how to teach your child about religion. Here Barbara Kay extols the virtues of children thinking about God.
I was walking my four-year-old granddaughter home from her (parochial) junior kindergarten a few weeks ago, a frequent pleasure, when she announced, "You can't see God, because He is inside you."
I agreed that was the case. But how, she wanted to know, could you be sure He was there. Simplicity my watchword, I replied that when people do good things, God is the happiness in their hearts, and when they do bad things, God is the sadness in their hearts. Summoning up the history of her parents' strictures around good and bad behaviour and consulting her own emerging conscience, she nodded with grave approval: God as the ultimate parent suited her vision of what a worship-worthy deity should be.
As we continued chatting about God and His mysterious ways, I noticed that I was occasionally glancing behind me in what I later shamefully identified as a furtive reflex-as though God-talk to the innocent young were something a secularly correct passer-by might consider suspicious.
Read the complete article here.
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Do Financial Problems Cause Divorce?
ForYourMarriage.org - Financial counselors often point to finances as the most common cause of divorce. That's only partially true. A study by Jason Carroll of Brigham Young University looked at 600 couples from across the nation from various ethnic, religious and economic backgrounds. According to Carroll, the study showed that "financial problems are as much a result of how we think about money as how we spend it."
One of the first things couples need to notice about each is their "spending personalities."
Money may be the presenting problem that gets a couple to counseling, but the solution is not just to make more money. Rather, couples need to improve communication skills so they can talk about their different ways of spending money and the different values that may underlie their financial decisions.
Carroll's study found that when at least one spouse is highly materialistic, couples are 40 percent more likely to have financial problems that put a strain on their marriage, regardless of income level. The reason is that the couple expects that their lifestyle will bring them happiness, rather than finding happiness in each other.
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A Funeral | | |
"Funeral" is a TV commercial launched by the Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS) in England which looks at relationships in a different light, through a woman at her husband's funeral. This simple ad is a celebration of the beautiful imperfections that make a relationship perfect. The commercial won an award for promoting the importance and value of family bonding.

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Jennifer Hartline - With our government on the verge of passing health care legislation that, absent explicit language placed within it prohibiting Federal funds from being used for abortion, will mandate abortion coverage paid for by you and me, I figure now's a good time for a radical discussion about sex. We'll never change the way we view abortion until we change our attitudes about sex. It's time for a sexual counter-revolution.
The sanctity of human life from the moment of conception throughout all of life up to and including a natural death is the only foundation our society will ever be able to stand upon if we hope to flourish as a truly free people. It's quite obvious our foundation is crumbling. To repair it, we must go back to square one and correct our ideas about sex. Unless we give sexual intercourse its due reverence, we'll never give human life its due reverence. The two can never be separated, as Pope Paul VI tried to tell the world in his prophetic encyclical, Humanae Vitae. If we don't regard all life as sacred - and thus the creative act of sex-then we will always find ways to rationalize and justify the murder of a child as a "right."
I'm not naively suggesting that prior to 1973 people were all living chaste and faithful lives and that sex was held in the highest esteem by all, to be expressed within the bond of marriage. I am saying that the decision to legalize the killing of our preborn children cemented a poisonous shift in our mentality, and that poison has corroded every aspect of our society, especially our treatment of sex. We replaced responsibility with "rights" and it's been a downhill race toward insatiable debauchery ever since.
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NFP Can Work With Irregular Cycles | |
Navigating the Tricky Times
Sara Fox Peterson - Unusually long, short or irregular cycles or amenorrhea (the absence of cycles) make NFP more challenging. But you already knew that, right?
Fortunately NFP does work just fine, regardless of how irregular your cycles are or whether you even have cycles, and it even works without requiring you to abstain four weeks out of the month.
 Normal cycles can be anywhere from about 25 to 40 days long and may vary in length by 5 or 6 days from cycle to cycle. So, for example, even your cycles are sometimes 26 days and sometimes 28 days and sometimes 30 days long, that is still considered normal and regular. It's also not usually a cause for concern to have a single abnormally long or short cycle once or twice a year. The human body simply isn't a machine and some variation in how fertility unfolds is to be expected.
Truly abnormal cycles can have many causes. The most common, and times when abnormal cycles are actually perfectly normal, are during breastfeeding and in the last few years before a woman enters menopause. Disorders of the thyroid, adrenals, pituitary or glucose metabolism (as in PCOS) can cause abnormally long or irregular cycles as can some medications (including some antidepressants).
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My Fertility Disease | | |
50 Years of the Pill
Amy Vierboom - With the 50th anniversary of its availability in stores, we've been doused with stories examining the many ways the pill revolutionised society. Listening to women hailing its arrival and drawn into the nostalgia of it all, as they complained that doctors wouldn't prescribe it for unmarried women, I recalled that my doctor had given it to me aged 15; along with a talk about STIs and an unconvinced look when I promised her that it really was just to treat my acne-prone skin. How much things seem to have changed.
Yet underlying the triumphant stories of the women who embraced it is the disconcerting belief that my fertility is some sort of disease that needs to be "managed"; that fertility had, for hundreds of generations before us, inhibited women from being truly happy and fulfilled; and we are now better off. But are we? Have we, as women, been truly liberated by this pill that promised so much?
The wonder pill allowed for the supposed "sexual freedom of expression" women had all been waiting for. The benefits of hindsight allow us to weigh the outcomes of this against recent reports of the damage the "raunch culture" is doing to our society's youngest members. The pill was the bedrock of the sexual revolution that has made raunch reality: sexual gratification with no strings attached; no commitment required.
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On Burying the Dead | |
Carolyn Moynihan - Tonight I will be at a wake, a family service, for a younger relative who has died only a few months after a diagnosis of inoperable cancer. Tomorrow I will attend the funeral proper, which promises to be a big event involving not only many friends and church members but also a large contingent of students from the school where he was teaching. Both commemorations, I am sure, will be dignified if very emotional occasions.
My nephew's family are religious people, believing that "life is changed, not taken away" by death. He died at home and they have kept watch over his body there for several days. When they and others accompany it to the cemetery for burial tomorrow, they will have done all they can to express their esteem and gratitude for all that he was to them in the body, and their respect for the body itself. I have been impressed once again during these past few days by the dignity of a corpse, even one that has been ravaged by sickness, and understand why humans have always treated their dead with special reverence and solemnity.
Until now. Many funerals leave me feeling uneasy about current trends -- not only the multiplication of eulogies with their often excruciating mixture of tragedy and levity, spirituality and banality, but even more the treatment of the body itself. Too often the funeral ends before the end, with the coffin sinking through the floor of the mortuary chapel or being carried off in the hearse with only the funeral director for company, while the assembly departs for refreshments.
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Large Families: Generous or Selfish | | |
If the Church is against contraception, are we expected to have heaps and heaps of kids? Our own Mary Joseph looks at this issue with logic and with love.

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Quiet as a Basic Human Right | |
Silence: The Enemy of Superficial, Stupid and Ugly
Thomas C. Reeves - I read not long ago that automobile companies are racing to reduce the noise in cars. Along with fuel efficiency and safety, the executives are deeply concerned about silence. Why? Where is the demand? Modern life is extraordinarily noisy, and people are rushing to augment their car stereos with satellite radio and television sets. The motorcycle and truck owners who have modified their vehicles and roar down our street attempting to sound like the Airbus A380 about to land on our roof seem entirely in step with contemporary culture, a culture enamored of super-loud leaf blowers, riding mowers, jet-skis, and snowmobiles. And then there is the omnipresent popular music.
Muzak, usually unobtrusive popular music played in commercial and industrial centers, became a reality in 1934, and spread throughout the 1940s and 1950s. It grew because it was popular; studies showed that stores improved sales and factories raised worker morale by exposing people to a steady diet of "elevator music." Radios, phonograph records, and television sets kept the level of sound high most of the time wherever one went. But how quiet it all seems now.
It is almost impossible today, beyond the confines of one's home, to escape hip-hop (now taught as a serious subject in some colleges), rap, rock, and country-western hits, played at high volume. Shopping malls blast recordings, spoken commercials, and videos at shoppers. Our local Home Depot and Best Buy reverberate with the assault of sobs, groans, and twangs over gigantic loudspeakers. Our cavernous grocery store sounds like a perpetual rock concert, with thump-thumping, shouting, and shrieking tearing at one's ears in every aisle.
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Coming Events | |
There are always plenty of good events happening in and around Sydney.
If your parish, school or group is planning an event for families, couples, singles etc then let us know about it so we can share the news!
Here are some events that we know about...
Mt Schoenstatt Calendar of Events. All are welcome at this place of pilgrimage and grace. See the calendar here.
National Theology of the Body Congress. July 28-30 in Philadelphia, USA. This congress will be the most expansive gathering of experts and popularists in the history of this extraordinary teaching. Find out more here.
Retreats are essential for those who wish to make real progress in the spiritual life and in learning to love. They are opportunities to step back and listen to what God is saying. The Carmelite Friars at Varoville have 28 different retreats on offer in 2010. See which might be calling you.
Retreats with the Dominican Sisters of St Cecilia. These retreat are for single Catholic women ages 18-35 and will be held in May, August and October. Click here for further information.
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The Life, Marriage and Family Centre is an agency of the Catholic Archdiocese of Sydney and has been established to extend the research, policy, educational and pastoral activities the Church undertakes with respect to life, marriage and family issues. Our website is lifemarriagefamily.org.au.
Thank you for taking time to read our newsletter, we hope it has been of interest. We welcome your comments and feedback at lmfnews@sydneycatholic.org. We hope we will be able to serve you in some capacity in 2010.
Yours in Christ,
The Life, Marriage and Family Centre Team
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